fix engine crash in shutdown phase

[arcadiaphy]

Description

@DickJC123 has reported the engine crash in #14329 which is related to my early PR on ASAN fix (#14223), this PR tries to fix the crash and restores the CI bypass in #14338.

After reproducing the crash in docker, I found it happens when trying to destruct resources using Storage singleton in engine shutdown phase. So I added shared_ptr in threaded engine to force Storage to destruct after engine cleanup.

Thus, the crash has two properties:

1. It doesn't happen all the time and is hard to reproduce because the destruction order of static variable is almost undefined in c++, which causes many similar bugs, uncaught exception of type std::__1::system_error: mutex lock failed: Invalid argument #309 for example. For the time being, we can only add patches of shared_ptr when crash happens.
2. It happens in test_convolution_multiple_streams because sub-process is used to run tests, leading to 6 engine shutdown phases in one single test.

In order to verify the fix, 100 times of test_convolution_multiple_streams is executed without crash.

Checklist

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• Feature2, tests, (and when applicable, API doc)

Comments

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[wkcn]

Thank you for the fix!
LGTM

[wkcn]

The PR has been merged.
Thanks for your contribution!